Thursday, February 18, 2010

Postplacement visits.

Saturday is our last postplacement visit. There are no words to describe how happy I am to be done with these. We still have to write yearly reports until Noah Tamirat is 18 but we will no longer have a social worker coming in and judging us as a family. I feel so much better prepared for this last visit. Because of the timeing of when they need to be done to get to our agency and then to Ethiopia in time ours have actually been done at 1 month, 4 months and now 10 months home. They are 3, 6 and 12 month reports. When we did our 3 month report I felt lost. We barely knew this child, there was no schedule or routine , lord only knows when we last had a good nights sleep. The questions felt overwhelming and I wondered what our SW would write about us as a family. The 6 month report was only slightly better because we were still very sleep deprived and still very much getting to know our son. The routine /schedule was a little bit closer to being established but not there yet. I was feeling like a failure. And some how she still wrote it was in Noah's best interest to stay in our family..Really , wow thats good to know.

At this stage I think we are much more prepared. We have a schedule and most importantly we have been getting sleep. Ten months with Noah have allowed us to see more of his personality and become more of a family. The questions that we are asked shouldn't be a problem to answer and I don't feel as lost and won't feel like as much of a failure. Here's hopeing she still finds it in Noah's best interest to be part of our family because we aren't letting him go I think we are kind of attached.


Are These Kids All Yours? said... makes a HUGE difference those months, sleep, and getting to know each other. :)

Kelly said...

Congrats on reaching this milestone! I can see how you would feel much more prepared and confident at this point - gosh, just a couple of months in it would be really nerve-wracking for sure.

JonesEthiopia said...

I know how you feel. I was so relieved when they were all over for R.... Of course, we JUST (about an hour ago) finished our first one for E-- so here we go again.

It is a weird feeling to have someone checking up on your abilities as a parent.